There is a transfem dinner with like a 100 women every month in my city. I go there, talk to people, invariably find train or code nerds. Then end up having a catgirl on my laps purring while my neighbours pet her head.

I can't be healthy until I find other trans women who I know just gets it.

half of the trans women you'll meet, especially those at support groups and whatnot, all struggle with the same or similar sorts of issues. never have i seen so many autistic and/or socially awkward/outcast people in one place than trans gatherings, and it is fucking amazing.

if you can find a decent trans community event of some sort near you i can 110% recommend that you go, even if just to sit in the corner and watch the whole time. you will not regret it and you'll fit right in :)

I went to computer science, so they just popped around me as it went :p

Well, I started off by joining a Discord server with trans women in my area, and just connected digitally for awhile. Then I planned a little meetup with 5 other girls in the server when I went up to visit Seattle. This was a great way to just get to meet and talk to other trans women. I was invited to a private Signal group chat afterwards full of trans women (mostly in Seattle). I was informed of a weekly event where 2 bars in the area host a dolls night, where they're both full of trans women. Eventually I managed to convince myself to go to one, and I met my current girlfriend at that very first time I went. We've gone together many times since, and I've met all sorts of trans women (and had lots of fun with them)! I also attend a trans event that happens every other week at a different bar that's a lot more chill (and a little less horny), and I meet a whole bunch of people there, too! I now have lots of trans friends, and am frequently out among my people. In fact, I spend roughly half my time in Seattle (with my girlfriend) nowadays despite living 40 miles away. Just existing in a city with lots of other trans folks is such an amazing feeling.

Granted, events like this will be location specific. But the best thing I can recommend is to find a recurring trans event, and start going to them regularly. It's worth a long drive if you can't find one super close.

Dunno really, started collecting little groups of them like pokemon.

• One of my best friends (transfem) I only met (before my medical or social transition) because of random chance, a childhood friend's birthday meal and my mother's diabetic cat.
• My "unhinged transfem" irl group is just some like minded trans women from the local lgbt community
• Not close friends, but, as mentioned above, the local lgbt community and in particular the trans socials they run
• Somebody from the Blahaj matrix space who lives pretty close and her friends (we met up again last weekend 🥰)
• People from my CFT (therapy) group, particularly close to one of them but it was a group of 10 trans people of all flavours
• "Dating" 😈, apps. Some relationships didnt develop as initially intended but ive remained friends with them

I guess its just a case of finding local groups and communities, being a bit out there and social and willing to put in the effort to create and maintain these friendships. I don't really think too hard on it, some I don't fully click with, some are definitely a different type of vibe than others etc. Theres no real right answer I guess...

I joined a dnd community recently because they had "no bigotry" as a hard rule and afterwards realized a lot of other girls did the same.

Tho starting conversations is still hard for me. Do I meow? Would they be offended by that?

You make a bunch of friends, drift away and check back in 5 years later and find out half of them are women now.

Have you tried helping your friends realise they are trans? This worked for me

I'll let you know if I ever befriend one 😭

I have just been horny on trans discord server (in the appropriate channels) and then end up chatting with peeps and then end up meeting some irl, boom, friends :3

I’m not sure. I met one on bumble years ago. She’s one of my best friends now. I tried a discord server a while ago and I’m pretty sure she was trying to sleep with me.

My only other trans woman friend is my wife.

We’re both talking about getting out more and being social. Just waiting for this stupid election to be over.

Also it resonates, I feel more comfortable with someone who I have shared experiences with.

Not trans but I know a lot of transfems because I used to run a weekly video game tournament. There have been several trans people in that community over the years and many of them have made a lot of friends there.

I'm also in a friend group centered around riding bikes and there is decent trans representation there as well. It's not as dense as in the tournament scene but they're around.

I guess what I'm saying is, if you have a hobby, find a local meetup for that hobby. If the group is inclusive and respectful, you might meet some people. Also, if you play super smash bros, that's like a cheat code.

Im in the same boat. I want to make some friends, but im fully boymode right now, and for the foreseeable future. I want to meet more transfemmes, but im middle aged and tired all the time. Socializing requires going out, and that's expensive.

I tried transcenance for my area, but i didnt feel like i fit with that group. You might have better luck if you arent already familiar.

Funny enough, all the trans people I know are in the same friend group, and we all hung out before 3 of us (at least) even realized we were trans. 😆 We attract our own