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[–] 8 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

I realise my sister is not doing great, up to her armpits in mental health crisis. I fully validate the legitimacy of what's going on. I love her. I very much want to help her, and have come running the moment she's said "can you watch the kids" or whatever.

I recognise all of these things.

I still don't think I deserve to be her emotional punching bag because she's upset with another person who isn't actually me

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  • [–] 5 points 3 weeks ago

    Yeah nah. You don't deserve that. Maybe start with "I love you and I want to help you but if you yell at me, I'm leaving".

    I've actually had to do something similar with my sister who rants loudly about people to me over the phone. I have threatened to hang up and I have done it. I don't yell so I won't take it from anyone else.

    🫂

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  • [–] 5 points 3 weeks ago* (5 children)

    Indeed you do NOT deserve to be anybody's punching bag. Does she think she's 'sharing' or 'venting' or some such, rather than what is actually happening? I appreciate that she is probably not ready to hear that what she's doing is over the limits of the acceptable. Can only suggest some kind of therapy - for her. But that could be a very delicate negotiation.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

    She got mad at me for cadging a lift from the person she was mad at.

    I had no idea of the undercurrent, I just needed transport. Cue shouting at me for doing it this way.

    ...I'd come there at her request to care for her kids

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

    Had she told you ahead of the transport that she was stroppy at that person? If not, then it's on her if the incident was unacceptable to her delicate sensibilities. You still don't deserve to be yelled at. Informed, yes - in good time to make appropriate arrangements. Yelled at, no.
    She may also be yelling at herself for forgetting to tell you the reason, or maybe thought she had told you when she hadn't. She still shouldn't have done it.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

    No, she hadn't. I had no idea.

    She's,since called me again to look after the kids...yes, of course. I love the kids, I'll do it.

    I apologised to her for upsetting her - I didn't know, if I had known I would have sorted something else out etc. I truly hadn't meant to cause her distress, so I chose to be the adult about it.

    She blew up at me again. Continues to be mad at me for the whole thing. I still have no idea why I'm the proxy

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago

    Yeah, proxy means that there's no rational resolution possible. Next time, I wouldn't apologise - she needs to be called out for being aggro to you when you WEREN'T the problem. Yell back - about blaming the victim of her lack of info sharing. This isn't childish - it's confronting a bully. And we know what happens when you cave to a bully.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago

    Did you tell her who she should be mad at?

    and is she mad at you or mad at life

    I know sometimes i get annoyed so I have an annoyed tone, and I know it's not anyone's fault, it's just the way things are

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  • [–] 7 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

    Fuckign Ozbargain has done it again. A scotch gift pack with the two glasses for cheaper than the bottle by itself.

    That website is not for saving money

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 child)

    I've had that on Door Dash before - a gift box of liquor cheaper delivered than going to pick it up in store. Nuts.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

    Went to the Rome exhibition yesterday.

    Was good.

    Many of the sculptures of people were missing their noses. Deliberate? Weathering? Both? I guess we'll never know.

    Favourite was a zodiac sundial at the end. Thing was in mint condition.

    2nd fave was a statue of Bacchus, god of all sorts of shit including wine. Dude knew how to partay. Respect the wine god.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

    Do not disrespect Bacchus, the meanads will eat you.

    Noses I can't say, but there is reputedly a large collection of removed genitals in the Vatican archive.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

    Had a couple of spritzes last night and didn't realise each tiny can was 8%. Passed the fuck out at like 9pm lol.

    Up at 5am though, of course 🙄😱💀

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  • [–] 4 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

    Had a lovely date night with mein liebe. Dinner at Olivine Wine Bar at Pentridge, but exxy but highly recommend! Had two oysters each, a goat cheese and beetroot tart, and fried chicken lol, exquisite! The cocktails were phenomenal! And the bar is in one of the prison houses, so all the cells are converted to little rooms with tables and chairs, it's surprising cozy!

    Went to Palace Cinema and watched Digger. Highly recommend it, loved it! Tom Cruise and John Goodman are fucking awesome and the story is wild and artsy, with an amazingly poingnant message. 9/10, point deducted for being over 2 hours long. Same director as The Revenant and Birdman, so I should have known lol

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 child)

    I can't wait to see Digger, I love Iñárritu so much. Have you seen Bardo? That was also very good.

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  • [–] 1 point 3 weeks ago

    He's such an artist, Iñárritu is, I always get lost in his films. I think you'll like Digger, it's trailer doesn't do the film justice; it's a trip of a movie.

    No I haven't seen Bardo but I've been meaning to! I'll have to give it a watch :)

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  • [–] 4 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)
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    Someone kindly left brownies in my office for me and they smell so sickly sweet. Between that and the hayfever, my nose is not happy today. Though I guess, given what BR saw yesterday, I should be glad I still have my nose.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 weeks ago

    This month's fruit & veg box arrived today and I just ate half a melon. I now have an over supply of green apples, so will need to plan some cooking. I also got two bags of little carrots - they are about half as long as the 'standard' size you tend to get, but just at thick. Absolutely perfect for a single person.

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  • [–] 4 points 3 weeks ago

    It's Loud Shirt Day 👂👚

    https://www.loudshirtday.org/

    I didn't know about it until I saw it on Sunrise this morning.

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago (13 children)

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

    Can I please have [5,3] and [11,2]?

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

    Um, with 8,2 you get gazpatcho?

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  • [–] 1 point 3 weeks ago (4 children)
  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago

    A delivery notification three days after the fact is not especially useful

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago

    Spent an hour sweeping the warehouse and now my throat hurts from the sneezing. Mask next time!!

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago

    oooof. was gonna get a can of plastidip - dipping not spray - to redo the fingertips of my working gloves. Like, fifteen pairs (I've been handing a lot of rock). $50 for a half litre. Not too bad.

    $110 shipping. get faaaaaaaaaarked

    so uh, anyone got an alternate? Looking for brush on or dip over spray since I'm basically putting little rubber finger hats on the tips.

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