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Discussion Thread ⛵ Friday 16 October 2026 (aussie.zone)
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[–] 5 points 1 month ago* (5 children)

Indeed you do NOT deserve to be anybody's punching bag. Does she think she's 'sharing' or 'venting' or some such, rather than what is actually happening? I appreciate that she is probably not ready to hear that what she's doing is over the limits of the acceptable. Can only suggest some kind of therapy - for her. But that could be a very delicate negotiation.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    She got mad at me for cadging a lift from the person she was mad at.

    I had no idea of the undercurrent, I just needed transport. Cue shouting at me for doing it this way.

    ...I'd come there at her request to care for her kids

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Had she told you ahead of the transport that she was stroppy at that person? If not, then it's on her if the incident was unacceptable to her delicate sensibilities. You still don't deserve to be yelled at. Informed, yes - in good time to make appropriate arrangements. Yelled at, no.
    She may also be yelling at herself for forgetting to tell you the reason, or maybe thought she had told you when she hadn't. She still shouldn't have done it.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    No, she hadn't. I had no idea.

    She's,since called me again to look after the kids...yes, of course. I love the kids, I'll do it.

    I apologised to her for upsetting her - I didn't know, if I had known I would have sorted something else out etc. I truly hadn't meant to cause her distress, so I chose to be the adult about it.

    She blew up at me again. Continues to be mad at me for the whole thing. I still have no idea why I'm the proxy

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    Yeah, proxy means that there's no rational resolution possible. Next time, I wouldn't apologise - she needs to be called out for being aggro to you when you WEREN'T the problem. Yell back - about blaming the victim of her lack of info sharing. This isn't childish - it's confronting a bully. And we know what happens when you cave to a bully.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    Did you tell her who she should be mad at?

    and is she mad at you or mad at life

    I know sometimes i get annoyed so I have an annoyed tone, and I know it's not anyone's fault, it's just the way things are

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