Sure, it's not a physical space, but getting on voice with the gang serves a very similar social purpose compared to hanging out in a mall or at a park. Not gonna say it's the best third space, just saying it is one.

all 20 comments

sorted by: hot top controversial new old
[–] 27 points 1 month ago (5 children)
  • [–] 17 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    So were malls. At least discord is accessible from home.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 4 child comments
  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Eh, depending on the mall, they’re a good place to physically hang out with other people without having to drink or spend money. It’s just that malls in the US are dull and boring. Compare it to malls in Asia and it’s a whole different level.

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 1 child comment
  • [–] 37 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    I not against this definition and I definitely think that online spaces have been serving as third spaces for many in the last decades. But I want to point out one problem with this. An important element for third spaces is that they have to be free (or very close to be). Having a computer or similar, electricity and internet might seem small for many, but it’s not achievable for everyone. There is a barrier of entry, and we need to be conscious about it.

  • source
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] 14 points 1 month ago
    [–] 13 points 1 month ago

    It really is the space that me and a handful of friends have met in almost daily for nearly a decade.

    Absolutely a third place.

  • source
  • [–] 39 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    That's so fucking sad not as in pathetic but just the lack of intimacy just makes me sad.

  • source
  • hideshow 2 child comments
  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    You say this but I moved away from my friends 8 years ago and we still meet every week to play games together. Something I would not be able to do as easy without discord.

    We also meet up a couple of times every year too :)

  • source
  • parent
  • hideshow 1 child comment
  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    I have a similar story as yours and I also have been using internet to compensate for the geographical difference, but it’s not the same. It’s all right, but nothing beats actually being in the same room together. The lack of physicality impacts us, because we are social animals trained on physical clues.

  • source
  • parent
  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    Yeah. It is. I pretty much grew up on IRC myself…

  • source
  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    A Facebook Messenger group chat is the third space for my friend circle.

  • source
  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Then so is fb, game chat, r*ddit and Lemmy.

  • source
  • hideshow 1 child comment
  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    Game chat sure, but not the other 3.

    Facebook is more of a bulletin board thats gotten overrun with people selling Avon.

    Reddit and Lemmy are absolutely not. They're good for discussing niche interests, and being a shitty surrogate for actual socialisation, but I'm not going to meet my friends here.

  • source
  • parent
  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago
    [–] -2 points 1 month ago

    discord? the thing with all the pedophiles? no, wait, I think it was the one that was using AI to validate and identify users through a 3rd party that got caught working for the feds. or was it that they had a leak of all the ID data after they promised they wouldn't store any of it.

    it's so hard to keep up with all the news these days.

  • source