if she never had the herpes simplex 1, yea she should not kiss you. most adults have hsv1 , like 80-90%. also herpes takes a while to infect another person too, its not instant. i think what you are looking for is, the SO is having a psychosmatic effect.

Absolutely not. Can you feel the bacteria? Well a virus is much much smaller than that. They are barely big enough to be "seen" with our current technology.

No, they are way too small. Most people can't even feel small insects (ticks, mosquitoes) on their skin. You also can't feel dust particles. Viruses are orders of magnitudes smaller than those.

Most viruses get into your body by getting in contact with mucus membranes (in your mouth, nose) or open wounds, then they start taking over cells and reproduce. But you will only notice them once your immune system reacts to them, which causes most initial symptoms of virus infections.

Yes, but not in that way. They're far too small to feel individually.

Yes, people with HSV can feel a tingling feeling in the affected areas that accompanies a flare-up. No, you can't feel that in an initial infection.

If you're not on an antiviral, and you kiss at all, she probably has it already. Lots of people have oral herpes and don't even know it, because they have few or no symptoms. Viral shedding peaks with sores, but it happens all the time.

If you have a HSV1 cold sore, you should be taking acyclovir (Zivorax). You should not allow the sore to develop because it spews virus and can ease transmission as well as infecting other nerves in you body.

In the future, you should take the drug at the point you feel the tingle of an outbreak.

I can sometimes feel the bacteria crawling over my skin. I then cut it of an boil it before sewing it back on. It itches but it's better then before.