It's possible and common to be happily married and in a healthy relationship with someone you love deeply and who also gets on your nerves sometimes for very specific, but also very human behavior.

Loving someone means loving all of that person, flaws included. We accept the little annoyances because overall, that person adds more to your life than they take away. Acknowledging this fact of human relationships is one way to embrace those flaws, and thus, that person.

People change. Hope this helps

Any human would be like this if they're living with someone who is a layabout. Memes like this are always telling about the character of the poster in that they are lazy and immature. Male or female, life requires upkeep and no one should have to tell anyone else what errands/chores have to be done. Sounds like you have a good partnership because there is no imbalance in labor. Over time that breeds resentment.

There's a certain personality type that sees activities like watching TV or reading a book as "doing nothing" and feel it's completely reasonable to just start talking to you like it's not interrupting anything at all.

My family has this tendency. It drives me absolutely insane. I can go three hours where I'm LITERALLY doing nothing, and the MOMENT I decide to engage with something? THAT'S when we need to talk about daily chores.

Glad to be moved out, but if that was my daily life for decades? I'd make lighthearted image macro jokes to not scream about it too.

I mean regardless of gender if your partner is bored there is a reasonable chance they will come pester you.

Not a hard and fast rule, and varies by personality, but definitely a tangible pattern.