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[–] 34 points 1 month ago (8 children)

Who's shocked.

My Male coworkers scroll hrs a daily for a match and get terrible options.

Meanwhile Female coworkers get overwhelmed with 100s and cannot possibly get the best fit for them. Horrible for both sides.

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  • [–] 24 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    this is by design. NO COMPANY in the entire world is going to provide a product in hopes that one day you won't need to use it anymore. So dating apps, by design, provide you with horrible matches so that you keep using said app. They don't want you finding the "love of your life", it's bad business if they did.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (4 children)

    Swiping yes on a hundred dudes and being overwhelmed sounds like a self inflicted problem

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    They dont do that. Dudes do 100s of swipes and messages and the apps are dying for any women to respond so the men will pay.

    When i was on them not a single man would read that i said i was a lesbian and got tons of messages even saying i wanted no contact from men on said apps.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (2 children)

    Paying for the app doesn't force match you with people. If women are getting 100s of dudes in their matches it's because they're swiping yes on 100s of dudes.

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  • [–] 23 points 1 month ago

    Not surprising at all, one conglomerate owns pretty much every single one of them, and it they're successful you don't need them anymore.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 month ago

    Most of them were full of bots and scammers even before the AI craze. I can only imagine how bad they are now.

    I'll say that I had a good experience with Coffee Meets Bagel but that was years ago. Their gimmick at the time was that they only showed you up to 10 profiles per day so it didn't incentivize doomscrolling like Tinder.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    GEE, I WONDER FUCKING WHY??? CLEARLY NOT BECAUSE OF ENSHITTIFICATION!!!

    It's somewhat ironic that dating apps today are worse for their stated purpose than pre-2010 dating sites, which is a really low bar, mind you.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    After Grindr started using PairIP and made this mod unusable: https://github.com/R0rt1z2/GrindrPlus, Grindr has become shit if you don't pay for it.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 month ago

    They are all now shit if you don't pay for it. Pof, okcupid, they are garbage. They used to work while silicon valley was still in it's growth phase, hen enshitified when they entered the maximizing revenue phase, which started perhaps a bit earlier with dating sites than other sectors like search engines.

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