Thanks for the very lovely and informative post. I agree with what you're saying and, as a Qur'anist/non-sectarian Muslim, I don't have much of a 'community' myself, sadly, and I'm often demonized by other Muslims online more than folks on Lemmy, lol. 🤷
I take what's good and disregard what makes no sense, but I have found the Qur'an to be extremely useful and hard to disagree with. Even what you're saying could arguably be found in the Qur'an : "righteousness is not facing the East or the West" (the belief is not superficial rituals that differ amongst tribes); believers are those who "have humility, abstain from vain talk, guard their chastity except around their mates, but whoever seeks beyond this are the transgressors" (it's an attitude thing, not just words on paper and rites). I quote previous Scripture and will even yap about Daoism and Western philosophy because wisdom comes from many places (although, as a self-proclaimed Muslim, I take the Qur'an as axiomatic, of course). As long as you strive to control yourself and try to live righteously and generously, I honestly don't care what you call yourself, you are my brother/sister, and judgment beyond that belongs to the Creator. 🙏👍