My take is that is kind of a thing that got sold on us a lot: that somehow we've got to fix ourselves, and it is our own responsibility to do so. Nothing about our modern world resembles of what these adaptations arose for, and that kind of sucks. I think that we need to be vocal that people are different, and that "self-improvement" and "life-long learning" is a myth. Of course people can improve over time, but most of us neurodivergent people got it to be a requirement for bare functioning.

I recently came up with a concept of crysis days: the day, when I pull the handbreak, and just allow my hyperfocus and restlessness to vent at least somewhere. I am experimenting with it, trying to accumulate some information that I can make decision on. Though I think this is a core of things that all of us neurodivergent people need: a space to be ourselves. Sometimes restless, sometimes emotional, sometimes just disconnected.