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[–] 9 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Mr. Bunny’s and I danced Roind each other for a couple years in a broken state, we liked each other but couldn’t reciprocate emotion and were both hung up on our damage.

We actually worked through the damage others caused us and … idk if I wanna say trauma bonded but we bonded through the healing of our trauma.

Idk if I could ever find another person who was so patient with me and I wanted to be so patient for.

The raw “other person did x to me and now I’m y and I’m trying to fix myself but you’re seeing it and feeling it what do we do” negotiations … idk if I’d recommend them but idk if our bond is breakable now.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 day ago

    The other Mrs. Lezbian and I bonded early on because we'd both had breakups a few months prior partly over the same thing. We both thought it had a decent chance of being a rebound. But we went in knowing a lot of what we wanted and trying to be healthier, be more true to our needs, and just generally do things right. And yeah we clicked a little too well, uhauled in under a year, got locked up for the pandemic around a year in, and have been happily inseparable ever since, even though to this day we're still working on our damage.

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  • [–] 1 point 17 hours ago

    That's really sweet! Good on you for working through it. Too many people don't bother.

    Just an fyi: I used to make the same mistake, but trauma bonding isn't bonding over a common trauma. It's when an abuse victim is bonded to their abuser. Very different scenario!

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