That's exactly the thing. Narcissists and psychopaths and sociopaths are not insecure at all. They are very confident in their abilities to get what they want by exploiting others.
Also we know that men who are insecure are not attractive to women at all.
So I think that myth needs to die. Women complain about mens behavior every time they can't benefit from that behavior. They want men they can control. The entire feminism movement is also based on trying to control men's behavior so it benefits women.
Its not about equal rights at all and we can see this in very feminist countries like Sweden where men are told to be feminine and that masculinity is toxic.
Hence, women in Sweden go for immigrant men more and more, since they haven't been completely brainwashed by the feminist movement. They can tell a women to shut up without feeling like they are attacking her. And that's actually what women wants, someone who doesn't bow down to them and let them run the entire relationship.