The virtue signalling here is exhausting and constant. It doesn't matter what you post or where, 1/4 of the comments will be trying to convince you that you are horrible for whatever it is you posted about, and how the obvious moral thing would be to run off into the woods and eat berries. Everyone is boycotting everything. No nuance ever.

Example: You donated time at a homeless shelter and want to provide a link to others to help donate? The page takes paypal, don't you understand how horrible that is, and you're horrible for suggesting they pay in paypal!

I think it scares a lot of people away from Lemmy, and frankly from our political causes as well. People spend so much time making everyone else feel terrible for even moderately trying that they just give up, the other side is usually pretty willing to accept them in and say "no no, you aren't horrible, look you're a good person". With Lemmy and Reddit they feel annoyed as hell here and not welcome, go back to Reddit where they get a warm hug in the thread. With politics they'll all share in how the other side is crazy. It feels good to be included, and Lemmy is very exclusive.

For a bunch of nerds who claim to have been picked on a lot in high school, we sure do push people away quite a bit.

To turn the example around, a better way to rephrase the response would be "Hey very cool! Is there a way to pay without paypal?"