but tildes refusal to open sign up made me realize tildes basically serves as deimos's playground

I think that is not the reason. No mod logs, Chad as the sole admin and mod, and bans without reason.

If you delete Chad, make Tildes moderation open, and add actual moderation not banning because poor Chad got his feelings hurt you got a great app.

open sign up

It is pretty easy to get in, I think adopting Lobsters' user tree might be a better option though.