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submitted 1 week ago by ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Waow 👀
I mean yeah, throating it isn't everything 😂
Technique is important! And yeah, practice, practice and practice some more! ❤️
Is fun :3

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[–] ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone [S] 1 point 1 week ago (2 children)

This is just my experience, but I was bullied intensely as a kid and also kept being called ugly by my mother throughout my entire childhood.
After spending my life hating myself, being convinced I'd die alone and convincing myself that I'm utterly unlovable, all I can say is:

Are you so deprived of positive encouragement in your life that someone being polite is a turn on?

Yes

It's hard to describe and also this is just my experience. Also, TMI.

TMI, NSFW-ish

I spent most of my life honestly believing that I was an ugly, worthless piece of trash, that I'd die alone and a virgin. The bullying was part of the reason, my mother as well. Dad moved out when I was 10, so it was just me and her and my brother. My self-image has never been very good. Something changed in me at around 15 tho.

For the first time ever, I hooked up with a guy. Today I know that he hates me for who I am, but at the time I felt...just good about myself for once. I learned that men's attention could be intensely rewarding, which kinda started a ridiculous and endless hunt for it and, long story short, a few years later, that's exactly how I met my bf. By posting pictures on Reddit for men's attention, seeking their validation, talking to them, meeting up with them and even sleeping with one of them and then eventually meeting the right one, my current bf.

Even today, feeling desired or noticed by men feels amazing to me. There's nothing quite like it. Not even mentioning being touched by them and feeling "used" and "owned" by them.
I know this is unhealthy, but I don't care. It just kinda feels right.

Also, in my case, this applies to men only, since that's who I'm attracted to.

Do I recommend it? Fuck no.
Did it make me feel good at the time? Oh hell yeah.

No idea if that answers your question, lol

I’m pretty sure that if I call you a good girl for loving to suck cook, it will not trigger anything in you.

Correct, but only because I'm already in a relationship. If I were single, it'd definitely trigger something in me 😂

I don’t know the taste of cock but if you really love your partner, it’s not weird to also love this part of them.

Honestly, it's not just him, it's cock in general. But I'm just weird, so yeah...

I don’t think you are weird.
Everyone has a weird side to them, you are right to embrace it and enjoy it.

I'm getting mixed signals over here 😭 /s

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[–] bilouba@jlai.lu 2 points 1 week ago (1 child)

I'm really sorry you had such difficult childhood and bad mother. Kids are the worst and can be so cruel for no reason, it's awful.

Also, I'm sorry my questions must have touch very sensitive memories, thank you for being open and I hope it wasn't too painful. Thank you for broadening my understanding and perspective on the human condition. I hope you were able to deal with your trauma with a professional and that it's not too much of a burden on you life.

I'm also sorry for the lack of clarity in my sentences. What I wanted to say is that everyone is unique/weird so really no one is weird. You should be able to like what you want without any guilt as long as it's not hurting anyone else (except if they want to be hurt of course 😈).

I really hope you are in a sane relationship with your boyfriend and not just dependent on it. I hope he treats you with respect and genuine love as you absolutely deserve it. You are worth it, no doubt in my mind. I wish you and your boyfriend the best. I wish I could give you a big hug right now 🫂 (here's a coupon for a free hug from your boyfriend in my place 💝)

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[–] ShadowOfMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone [S] 1 point 1 week ago

It's fine, don't worry! I don't mind at all, and if my comment helped, that's what I care about ❤️

And yeah, my relationship is great. We're quite active (lol) and things are going well. I already claimed my hug coupon (and more, much more!).

Thank you, best of luck to you too 💜

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