That sounds good and I was hopeful, and I got their social media and phone number, but I've only got one text back in three days. They seem like they already have a group of friends from the parts of a conversation I overheard while I was sitting beside them. They know I'm trans and dealing with serious shit, but they only seemed to express small sympathies like "that's crazy. wow." I'm guessing now on whether I fucked up the interaction or if they knew about my past through other people. I know they're busy with their own lives, but three days of being left without replies (and I'm not being weird, istg) is kind of insulting given that they helped me add them to my contacts and friend one of them on discord.

I just cannot relate to mentally healthy neurotypicals, they have like alien brains to me, their way of speaking and acting just seems cold and unbothered, like I will never get to actually know these people even if I spent years with them. These people really did give off vibes of the type who like to discuss other people's drama, but have too few problems to ever become involved in things like that themselves. I have a funny feeling if I ask them for support all they would offer would be advice.

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Being trans, or even Queer of any kind, is far not enough to be instant friend. We are very different on many other aspects.

Sometimes so different, that I struggle to understand - like Queer person goin to vote far right nazi fucks, who openly say [redacted, to do bad things to Queers]. it is out of my mind, how a Queer could vote for own doom, and some still do.

For these days, finding new friends, outside school (random to have a chance, and if You still may be there) or work (simply don't, way too rare to success) is terrifying hard. None of library, park or tavern is not a spot to find one any more. Internet meeting people spots are intended for smex instead of connecting people, and are paid af. Do anyone know some other options?

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    Commiserating vent: my pride community center shut down before covid except for a trans youth support group, and I can't do bars because sound sensitivity and even though we actually have multiple gay bars a lesbian bar and a trans bar (but oh, the trans bar is actually a chaser bar and the owner/employees have reports of transphobic interactions) and so many of the LGBT people I've met are so un-woke I want to scream.

    I know we're out here but it's two ships passing in the night. We need spaces to find each other.

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