Yeah and this isn’t from the point of a cheater, it’s from the point of a partner who is clearly into intelligence as a kink, known as a sapiosexual. Sapiosexuals are found in high percentages of couples who have open relationships, but open relationships require massive amounts of communication and trust. If you find out your partner is an idiot who is caught dismissing or outright breaking the previously agreed up rules, it stands that you find them less attractive because they’ve proven they were not very smart about the agreement, they put the relationship and perhaps your and their health at risk. This doesn’t have to be about cheating, it can just be about stupidity. Focusing on the cheating says more about the commenter above and not the original post.