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[–] 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (7 children)

Violence was the wrong answer. But a swift and strong reaction to defend someone being bullied is something to praise. At a time when a large portion of society is actively trying to demote women to the position of being property instead of people with equal rights, that instinct is even more important to encourage.
So, while violence would normally be something that is met with swift punishment of its own to try to correct the child's behavior, in this case, the balance tips a bit the other way. In this case the kid was already ejected from the game and the parent decided that was enough of a punishment without needing to add additional punishment. Some people feel that there should also be some reward to encourage the instinctive feeling.
I have not seen any response so far that denies that ejection was not warranted as a punishment for the violence.
As a parent you have to be conscious of the lessons you teach your children. Harsh retaliation to anything that the kid does wrong will end up squashing their ability to act for themselves or stand up for themselves. In fact it may even lead to them becoming a bully.

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  • [–] -1 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

    Its a bit different when its an opponent in a competitive game. They could shout any random mean thing at anyone just because they are frustrated. Taking them seriously is the wrong move. The girl in this situation already has a team, and team mates, and its none of them that are harassing her. She should be able to brush it off just as easy as any of the guys, and acting like she needs a defender isnt automatically the right move just because she's a girl.

    All this to say, clearly this is just a dumb social media mother attempting to brag about their impulsive and violent child as if it were a good thing.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

    Its a bit different when its an opponent in a competitive game. They could shout any random mean thing at anyone just because they are frustrated.

    Things only said by people who use racial slurs in online games.

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  • [–] -2 points 2 weeks ago* (2 children)

    No, I don't like to speak or act for others without permission first. I won't assume my team mate is offended unless they say so, and won't jump to their defense unless they ask. I consider that to be a minimum level of respect and I would expect others treat me the same way.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 weeks ago

    I fully agree with you, but I think we are picturing kids at the opposite ends of childhood. In my head we are talking about little kids that are very young and just learning things like impulse control and what is fair. The smear of the very few pixels left in the OP's image gave me the impression that we were dealing with someone pretty young. But if we're dealing with older kids, then the dynamic does change dramatically. If your teenager is physically lashing out at other kids then we are dealing with someone with behavioral problems (both child and parents) and that does need a much stronger correction.

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