Some days, i feel happy, and other days i feel completely lost. I miss the bubbly innocent version of myself who could enjoy little things without overthinking everything. This breakup has changed me in ways I never expected. I don't understand why I struggle to feel genuinely happy why crowded places make me anxious or why I sometimes feel like I'll never heal from this. Is it normal to feel this way after a painful breakup.

Today is 38th day of no contact

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[–] 11 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Some breakups are really fucking bad. Especially if you're codependent, you had plans for the future, or if they left you without closure, meaning your brain is constantly ruminating.

Try not to have unrealistic expectations. You will get better, but it will be slower than you'd like. There'll be ups, downs, but you'll generally trend upwards. That's how it is for practically everyone, and the others either have a very good reason for it, or they have something wrong with them.

Reaching out to friends and family can help, if you have ones that can be relied on in such times. A psych can help depending on how you feel.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

    Yeah, i guess healing takes time, even if it’s slower than we want it to be. The thing is i don’t really have any friends left because i got so caught up in the relationship. Now i feel like i have no one to turn to which makes everything even harder. But i’m trying to take it one day at a time.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 child)

    I can get that, my last one left me in a similar situation. It might not feel like it, but those friends may appreciate you reaching out. It's worth a shot. If not, there are always new people in the world, and you can chalk this up to a learning experience.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 3 weeks ago

    I did try reaching out, but they kept ignoring my messages. Eventually they just told me to take care of myself and now i see them posting about their happy life. I guess i have to accept that they’ve moved on even though it hurts.

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