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I never have special interests for that long though

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[–] 5 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

Here is something that really fucked me up for a while: I didn't think I had major sensory issues but because I am an independent adult with a neurodivergent spouse, we had just eliminated all that from our lives.

Do shirt tags bother me? No, but I haven't bought clothes with a tag in years.

Do certain garments bother me? No, the fact that the only pants I can tolerate are sweats (at home) or jeans (with stretchy fibre content) was camouflaged by those being the only pants I ever wear.

Can food touch? Yes? But I won't enjoy eating if the cold sauce is mixed in with the hot food. I also almost never eat in public/with other people because I am gluten free and vegan so I very rarely eat food that isn't prepared by me, which has been the case for years ☠️

If you've been self- accommodating for so long, you may not realize that you are doing it.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago (6 children)

    Hmm. Well, that gives me things to consider. lol.

    I don't think I have any clothing issues, except I must have a shirt pocket. That used to be less true, but I highly preferred one most of my adult life because I bucked the "uncool" trend and liked having a pocket protector for my pens. Then I got glasses, and having a shirt pocket was necessary for that. Now I'm a wheelchair users and pockets on shorts/pants are unusable, so shirt pockets are a must. Although I've always tended to buy mulitples of something I found that works because it works and was consistent. heh.

    Food touching is generally not a thing I tolerate. Much less mixing food. lol. I mean, something like biscuits and gravy or rice and beans is one thing, but I see people make things like "thanksgiving sandwiches" and I can't do that. I want to enjoy each thing for what it is. And preferably not mixed. I will gladly use multiple bowls to help ensure that does not happen. lol.

    But none of that (except I think the food touching was the single exception) seemed to pop up on the assessment tests I was doing. lol.

    Blast. I thought I'd laid this one to rest. lol

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

    Whether or not you are autistic only matters if it matters to you, comrade. You can lay it to rest if you want to.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

    It helped explain some things about my wife - has helped us both. The ADHD diagnosis was much more helpful. I'd like to know either way, but it's not the end of the world either way :)

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

    My spouse and I both sought formal diagnosis last year. I had been on ADHD meds for two years by then and he has not been on any.

    I went for ADHD and Autism and he did ADHD only. One year later he's like, um, I guess I'm autistic too eh?

    Sharing in case it makes any thing feel more 'normal'.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

    Honestly, I'm not overly worried about it. If I do and got a diagnosis, it might help bring a little more understanding, but the ADHD explains most of my problems (and strengths). lol. So I'll probably continue to waffle a bit.

    But knowing my wife has it for sure helps. We've definitely made some adjustments that just make sense now.

    My dad almost certainly has ADHD but never got a diagnosis. In his case, it's more like my possible autism - if he does have ADHD which we're all (including him) pretty convinced, he managed to mask / cope well enough throughout his life - a diagnosis seems like a "whatever why bother".

    Sorry to spend all this time talking about myself, it's ADHD verbosity. But I find everyone else as interesting as myself, too! :)

    Speaking of which, your comment made me smile. No matter the exact mix of stuff, it does seems like a lot of us find each other, one way or another. lol. That's why my wife and I married - half a decade before our diagnosis - because we were the only people laughing at each others' jokes. lol

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  • [–] 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 child)

    Sorry to spend all this time talking about myself, it's ADHD verbosity. But I find everyone else as interesting as myself, too! :)

    Something I love about this community is that we can be ourselves. I think people here are understanding that what you are describing is one way ADHD/autistic people express empathy and connect with each other. No need to qualify it!

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