Really appreciate the thoughtful response on this topic. I think it's a pretty commonly-shared experience among most of us, if not necessarily one that is very often overcome, but I believe that you understand it to a high degree.
What harm do you suffer from deferring your judgments, or from an early morning trip to pick up sausages, or from listening to the fan's stories of their beloved character? Inconvenience is a small price to pay to offer kindness. The discomfort is bearable, especially when you can occasionally show it to yourself.