Until very recently, Karyann Parkinson lived in leafy Williamsburg, Virginia. She and her husband, Dallin, moved there from Utah so Parkinson could attend William and Mary Law School.

In June, when Parkinson was preparing for the bar—and also happened to be eight months pregnant with her fifth child—she and her then-youngest, Sam, went for a bike ride, as they often do. They stopped for her son's favorite activity: collecting goose feathers from the path near their community pond. When they got home, he asked if he could walk back and get some more.

Parkinson said yes. It's a short walk, along a sidewalk separated from the street by 10 feet of grass. Sam would have to cross two streets with crosswalks, which she'd seen him do safely hundreds of times—including six times that morning, she says. Off he went while she made lunch.

A passerby saw Sam and alerted security. One of the community's security guards escorted the boy back and gave Parkinson an earful. Pretty soon there were three cop cars, just as many cops, a security vehicle, and two Child Protective Services (CPS) workers at Parkinson's door.

CPS ended up investigating her for abuse and neglect.

The cops, meanwhile, charged her with contributing to the delinquency of a minor. CPS found the allegations substantiated and placed Parkinson on the state's child abuse and neglect registry. She will remain there for seven years.

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[–] 0 points 2 months ago* (2 children)

I don't think she deserves to be charged for letting him walk to a park a short distance away (which was the point of the original comment to which I replied.) I personally wouldn't have allowed my child at five to walk unsupervised across two cross streets, but I recognize children are different and I'm not aware of the specifics of the neighborhood. I do not judge the parent for this.

But the moment it became apparent there was a pond at the park, it's a different ballgame. I'm not overblowing the danger of a pond to an unsupervised five year old, you're dramatically underplaying it. And nowhere did I bash the parents, I only agreed with the assessment of child protective services that charges were appropriate.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    I would trust my 3 yr old to walk near a pond unsupervised. Think he probably has more brains than you though. Its about the individual person. If they have shown a record of being cautious and independent then you trust them. Only non parents or control freaks pop off like you are in this thread.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

    That is an extremely bad parenting decision. Like, take-your-kid-away, bad decision.

    Only non parents or control freaks pop off like you are in this thread.

    Parent to a tween. And most certainly not a control freak. He's been going to the corner park (about a quarter mile away) by himself since he was six or seven, and staying home alone for several hours since about that time too. I'm in agreement that there can be too much helicopter parenting out there, but man do we disagree what constitutes helicoptering.

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