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[–] Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 2 months ago

Sweetie I know you mean well but this is a place for women to talk together. We explicitly ask that men don't comment here. It's in the rules for this community.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 7 points 2 months ago (41 children)

Are you sure the woman you're talking to came to the women's community to get a man's advice?

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 6 points 2 months ago (30 children)

That's your problem for not curating your feed.

You're not helping anyone. You're a man in a women's community giving unsolicited advice to a woman.

You don't need a disclaimer, you need to shut up and listen.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 months ago* (15 children)

You agreed to adhere to community specific rules when you made an account.

Have you considered maybe it’s your problem your problem for creating a community in a federated system, and then posting in it,

Yeah, it's women's problem for having our own community. What the fuck, dude?

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 4 points 2 months ago (9 children)

You're the only one triggered here bud. We're where we should be, but you got your feelings hurt so you need to stay and argue about it.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 4 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Way to put your problems on women. You're really helping out with your advice now.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Blame for what exactly? Calling someone out who can't help but give unsolicited advice and invade women's spaces? I wonder what that says about you.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 5 points 2 months ago*

Your mistake was pointed out. You kept talking.

I assure you I am exactly like this in real life to people like you.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 months ago

I'm going to second Wren. I'm also like this in real life to sexist men like you.

Someone has to stand up to men who insist they know better.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 months ago

Don’t hide behind the fact you’re a women.

You're a woman

FTFY

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Proving once again that there are men that refuse to do the necessary work and will attack women instead of looking inward.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

This is a women's only community that you are desecrating.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

I'm not one to shut up when a man tells me to.

I'll roll in the mud with you. I don't give a fuck. You're displaying rapist tendencies in here and it's disgusting.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

You’re displaying moron tendencies, with a touch of victim complex.

You've described your activity in here spot on :D

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Usually when people break the rules, they are polite and then stop the rule breaking.

You're doubling down and insisting on forcing yourself on us.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

You're not being polite in any way, shape, or form.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

Rules…

Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago*

I can see your instance, it's not secret.

When going to other communities, respect their rules AND our rules when they are more restrictive. Do not give cause for others to de-federate our instance please.

Edit: apologies for being blunt, I thought you were The Terrible Humbaba that I was conversing with - regardless, your instance does require you to adhere to community specific rules.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 4 points 2 months ago (13 children)

Have you considered paying attention? You earned whatever you got here.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 4 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Where was the stone in that one? Come on. My comebacks were way better than that.

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 3 points 2 months ago

You said you were gonna throw stones. I assumed that meant you had some.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

Rules…

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today [S] 4 points 2 months ago

We don't tolerate intolerance.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (8 children)

therefore I’ll keep throwing stones back as they are thrown at me.

Men like you are why I'm such a fucking pain in the ass on this site.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago (7 children)

You like it, don't you? Refusing to listen to women? Forcing them to deal with you, pushing past their boundaries?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (6 children)

I prefer to see when sexists like you are around.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (5 children)

You were the first to be rude.

"As a man" psshhhhhhhh

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (4 children)

If you didn't know the rules, why would you start your comment making it clear you're a man?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago* (3 children)

For the record, starting any advice "as a man" when talking to a woman is going to ruffle feathers. It's presumptuous and rude. As if you being a man gives you more authority to advise women. Especially in a women's only community - even if we didn't have the rule "women only", that advice would be taken poorly here.

You only pretend to respect women. Your actions here have laid bare your true feelings about boundaries that women put up.

I didn't start out rude to you:

There were over 60 comments when you first replied 2 hours ago. Please don’t lie.

You know the rules here now. You know you’re breaking them now.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

My other initial comments weren't rude either. You have a fragile ego.

It’s always surprised me how many people in the Fediverse will leave comments on a post without reading any of the other comments.

There’s like…multiple conversations that have happened here that made it clear that we don’t want to hear men’s voices in here.

If I think I might help a woman to suffer less, should I abstain from doing it because men are not welcome?

Yes.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago (1 child)

I don’t want to continue, but if you speak factual bs you kind of force my hand

Continuing to not take responsibility for your own actions. You are in control of your actions. I'm not forcing you to do shit.

You have to have the last word over women, don't you?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 months ago

Notice you didn’t reply to anything I said, because you know it’s true.

Why would I address it when it's a waste of time? You don't listen.

You've got a weak ego and rapist tendencies with how much you push back against women. Deal with it.

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[–] thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 2 months ago (4 children)

I don’t claim to speak for all women

not beating the woman lorax allegations

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (3 children)

They had actually defended you elsewhere, but you just can't help but attack women, can you?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Rules…

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

You've already admitted to being a dick in here. What does it do for you to force yourself on women?

Does it give you a thrill?

Do you enjoy hearing a woman protest as you push and push and push past every request she's made of you?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

Oh you do enjoy it.

I see you.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (3 children)

It's always surprised me how many people in the Fediverse will leave comments on a post without reading any of the other comments.

There's like.....multiple conversations that have happened here that made it clear that we don't want to hear men's voices in here.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

There were several conversations about men not being allowed. I will call you a liar because you are lying to try to make yourself look better.

You look bad here. You're continuously breaking the rules because why? Your ego is bruised? You don't want to listen to women?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

At least I can follow simple rules.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 months ago

If I think I might help a woman to suffer less, should I abstain from doing it because men are not welcome?

Yes.

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 months ago (2 children)

, but as a man

UGH

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[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

An incel reported that. So please Velma, when men ignore your boundaries and make you uncomfortable you absolutely can't say anything. Because expressing being unhappy when men disrespect you and cross your boundaries is very, very wrong.