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Have you ever experienced sexual anhedonia? (lemmy.world)
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I just did. It sucked. For the first time in my life I ejaculated without an orgasm. Not a little one or a lousy one. Like, not one- at all. Nothing.

In fact, I am pretty mad about it right now. It feels like jonesing for a candy bar, putting your cash in the vending machine and it just takes your money. WTF?? Now you're still hungry, super irritated, and don't have another dollar.

I pray this is just a one time thing. Please, universe, don't take away ol trusty.

Has anyone else experienced this??

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[–] 8 points 3 months ago (5 children)

I was on anti depressants for a while, which not only reduced libido hugely, they removed the ability to orgasm. Like, you'd get to the final crest of the wave but never be able to reach it. Very frustrating and I get why you're angry. Now and then I could climax but it would be pretty much without any satisfaction.

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  • [–] 6 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    This is how most women experience sex when they talk about lack of orgasm in my experience. I would say all or nearly all of my sexual encounters go exactly like this, I’m a woman and I’ve talked about this with my female friends who often or always experience the same thing. For me though there’s no psych meds involved, it’s just what having an unfulfilling partner (someone who might turn you on physically but neglects your mind) is like.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

    Yeah, your experience more accurately reflects the term. I should have used the term 'ejaculatory anhedonia' or maybe a more generalized 'orgasmic anhedonia' but I couldn't find a consensus on the terms online.

    Of course, there's probably a big difference between a pathological condition of being aroused, performing the sex acts in earnest, but not receiving pleasure from it and just having lousy sex you're not into with partners who aren't good at it. Or, like you said, you just can't get there because the mental aspect is lacking.

    Though I did note that, like men, there is evidence of women experiencing orgasms without pleasure, but it's harder to observe. Sounds like a cop out to me. Sure it's easy to spot some dude's dribble, but you could easily measure vaginal contractions with a device.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago*

    I have ED and i'm not sure if it's because of my anxiety and depression or the drugs that treat it. I swear my dick used to be bigger. Also could be from cranking my hog twice daily. I haven't experienced loss of libido, if anything it's stronger than ever. Depression is a bitch, I should know.

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