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[–] 2 points 3 months ago (3 children)

It's up to you. Thing is, when a relationship is this young and she can't find time, she's not going to ever find time. The norm is getting (has gotten) established that you are a low priority and are OK with this, so she can show up only on the rare occasions she wants to. If you really were happy with this, whatever, but you do not seem happy with this. Do you have specific reasons for wanting to keep on with the relationship?

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 3 months ago (2 children)

    She is literally the only person in my life right now. I tried for 2 years to make some kind of friends, but none of them worked out. You´d think I´d have been happy to have a girlfriend, but honestly I just felt a huge disappointment: another person that is going to fill my world and then leave. Though, to her credit, she is absolutely not filling my world.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Ouch, sorry to hear that. It's harder to evaluate a relationship in such a context. Though, like you said, she's barely there so... maybe that helps since it's not too different from not being in a relationship anyway. I hope you have better luck going forward.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 3 months ago

    I've been doing some processing and realizing though she is unreliable and has a lot of committments, a bigger problem for me is that I kind don't know what to do with romance at this point in my life. I guess I don't believe in it anymore. I'm kind of OK being who I am in my life and I don't want to play games of pretending to be something I'm not for someone else. I think that after you've had several romantic partners who mostly disappear, you start to wonder if this romance thing isn't just entirely transactional, and at a high cost.

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