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Women who consider themselves unattractive, what’s something men don’t realize about how they treat you compared to women they find attractive? (lemmy.world)
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[–] 4 points 3 months ago (1 child)

Damn, that’s quite the thought spiral. Like, I can see how the train of thought gets there eventually, but holy cow. There are guys out here who give negative fucks and openly treat women horribly - leering, rude comments, groping, etc. Someone going “hey, your dress looks nice!” or “hey, if you’re ever interested in coffee or a drink, here’s my number” and not being weird about it is a completely different thing.

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  • [–] 6 points 3 months ago

    Right. And unfortunately, the spiral doesn't have to be as extreme as described above in order to get a guy to not make a move. Instead it could be as simple as "Hmm, I'd like to talk to her, but I heard online that some women find it annoying... I don't want to be annoying, so..." And if the general cultural consensus is that women dislike being approached as a rule, then we would expect guys who are courteous and pro-social to follow the rule, while guys who don't care about those things to break it.

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