I like that you think you can just dictate something and say it's not up for discussion while it is literally being discussed, and there are valid responses. No, you don't get to decide this. You are not the arbiter of language, and you don't get to decide what other people perceive. It's fine to ask nicely, but not in the manner you're doing. You can say "I think [x], so please stop" but that's not what you're doing. You're trying to tell us what is meant.

While we're at it, aren't asshole, pussy, dick, and just about every other insult not allowed too? Are we just not allowed to speak, because language has old connotations built into it? Are you going to start telling people that gendered romantic languages are wrong? What about something like gentlemen, which originally meant someone from a good family?

No, trying to fix language like this is pretty ridiculous. They didn't say anything homophobic. Just because you read something into it doesn't mean everyone else has to change. I think most people wouldn't think the comment above is saying the person is bad because they're subservient. It's clear that it's bad because of the person they're trying to please.