Yeah that just sounds wild to me. I can see how you would justify disparagement for hypocrisy here. That being said if you're using 'woke' as a strictly 'other' term I would reflect on that.

I used to live in Texas where people were pretty forthrightly awful. Or there was a lot of 'bigotry of low expectations' going on that I realized I fell into for quite a while after I came to my current blue haven. I don't think anyone here calls the cops on black people in public spaces but I do think some of that is probably a bit of co-policing on that end too

Assuming everything at face value I feel like Boston is pretty insufferable. I don't actually know that much so I can't comment directly but I would still recommend getting out of the space for some perspective. Good chance you either go somewhere where people are openly shitbags and find out how much tolerance makes a difference even if people are overstepping in their social justice warrioring, or you find a place that's had a chance to cool off and think about it for a mo.

But yeah, white liberalism is everywhere and super annoying in all places. Just keep looking until somewhere meets your speed.