Self identity doesn't require external validation. You define yourself through your actions, not by what you say you are. It's not a sign of disrespect if someone doesn't use your preferred pronouns, it's that they just don't care. They're more concerned with you being a good neighbor or that you use your turn signals or say please and thank you or make eye contact when you're talking to someone or that you bathe before you go out in public. Pronouns are superficial. Try actually contributing something positive to the world instead of acting like a victim.