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What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner? (lemmy.world)
submitted 4 months ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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I'm beginning to accept that I may never be in a relationship again. There are life expectations I have for myself, some admittedly selfish, but really, the idea of having to deal with another grownup who is as obstinate as I am has left me disillusioned about relationships. But I want to have kids. I want to be a father. For women, its fairy easy, go to a sperm bank, pick your choice, get the procedure done and you are on your way. What is the process for dudes? I believe its going to involve a surrogate, but where does one get a donor egg and what not? I am not looking to have a relationship with an egg donor or the surrogate, just me and the kids.

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[–] [S] 2 points 4 months ago (1 child)

I wanted to be a husband and a full time dad. I've tried step 1 and it did not go well. Does that mean I don't qualify for step 2? Also, there are kids who wake up in a two parent home and end up in a single parent home, or in the foster system, or homeless. Doesn't always work out as one intends, best foot forward is the next best alternate in my books.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

    No worries, man, I'm an anti-natalist. I don't think anyone should be brought into this world, so you don't need to justify anything to me.

    The question is how you get society to give you a child, and I think you'll have to compete with more traditional family units for the scarce resources of egg & womb. If you want to adopt pre-existing older kids, you'll have less to contend against.

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