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[–] 2 points 4 months ago (18 children)

It’s worthwhile for an online community to not become just another pointless echo chamber.

It's worthwhile for men to respect when women want to gather on our own and talk about things without men's voices.

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  • [–] [S] 0 points 4 months ago (17 children)

    I'm not sure that constitutes an echo chamber necessarily. Women alone obviously have very diverse opinions on topics, same for men and non-binary people. Now if there's a specific narrative and everyone agrees and any disagreement or questioning is seen as an attack then that's probably an echo chamber.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago (16 children)

    Oh you absolutely thought it did when you DMed me to argue about making sure the rules are being applied equally in womensstuff.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 4 months ago (15 children)

    More so to apologize but yeah rules should be applied equally since there was another guy in those same threads although i don't agree with the point they were making.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (14 children)

    I'd be really curious to know if you DM other community members with the same concern after you've been reprimanded for breaking the rules.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 4 months ago (13 children)

    I can send you my login credentials if you want.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (12 children)

    Oh I have to do the work for you, can't just be honest?

    I do think it is weird how concerned you are about the rules being applied equally in a community that you aren't even welcome in to begin with. It's not your concern.

    If a community wants to use downvotes as a way of communicating displeasure or rule breaking, that's their prerogative.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 4 months ago (11 children)

    I was just offering. I'm all about rule following everywhere, not just in a particular community and breaking the rules should definitely be downvoted. Once again I'm apologizing for the human error on that comment.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (10 children)

    You’re more than welcome to become a mod of your own community where you can be sure the rules are applied as you prefer.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 4 months ago (9 children)

    Yeah but that aside I think most people enjoy or prefer fairness. Like what's the point of rules if they aren't fair, then they're more like suggestions than rules.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (8 children)

    What would you have done if you got one of us in womensstuff to admit the rules weren’t applied fairly?

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 4 months ago (7 children)

    There's not really anything to do. If I was a member of the sub I would suggest changing that and likely leave if that wasn't going to happen. Since I'm not a member there's really not much of anything to do beyond answering questions like the one you gave me.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (6 children)

    Then why DM me to ask in the first place?

    I'm sincerely asking. I want you to really think about it.

    If there was nothing for you to do about it, since you are not a member, why are you so concerned with womensstuff applying the rules of our community fairly?

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 4 months ago (5 children)

    Well it's more so a general concern but for that particular instance there was someone else in breach of the same rule I was. I messaged to apologize and just say hey, hope y'all got that other guy too kinda. Didn't seem harmful to me but if you took offense then I apologize for that as well.

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  • [–] 0 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    I think you need to learn a bit more about how the fediverse works before you start stepping in to make sure moderators are doing their jobs correctly.

    You can find the moderators for the community listed in their sidebar. It's also possible to look at other user's modlogs depending on the instance you're using. You would have been able to see that the other user got their comment removed and were also banned from the community.

    Instead, you sought out individuals from the community to tattle on them. That is almost always going to leave a bad taste in people's mouths.

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  • [–] [S] 2 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    Honestly I wasn't thinking that deep about it. Was far more casual of a statement than this makes it out to seem. My main intention was to apologize which is what I wrote first. It's not like I wrote an opus on the injustices of a particular community or anything. It was like a five word quip. So I apologize again it came off like that to you.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago (2 children)

    The women’s communities on Lemmy get brigaded by men who are incensed at there being a space they’re not welcome in a lot. Daily.

    When you reach out via a DM to tattle and, from my point of view, whine about others getting better treatment than you, it feels like yet another man trying to push boundaries.

    We’re allowed to maintain our community the way we want and we’re allowed to reject criticism.

    I appreciate that you weren’t trying to break the rules.

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  • [–] [S] 3 points 4 months ago* (1 child)

    Honestly I ended up there by accident because I only browse all and new and it was my bad for not checking the sub rules first. Likewise, I feel like we've gotten some resolution between you and I and I wish you the best (⁠◍⁠•⁠ᴗ⁠•⁠◍⁠).

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