What technique did you get

Penile Inversion, using scrotal skin for the graft. I had to undergo months of laser & electrolysis on the scrotum.

where, with which doctor

I try not to doxx myself, but in the US, in the southeast in particular. The surgeon no longer practices at that hospital, and the hospital has since shuttered their gender-affirming surgery wing. I anticipated this and was very intentional about fast-tracking my surgery as I saw the window of opportunity closing. It was really upsetting to see my predictions come true.

how much did it cost?

I don't have exact figures on me. Insurance covered most of it, I think total costs were like $125,000. I probably paid $1 - 3k out of pocket, and then of course you have to include the costs of the hotel for your caregiver the week you are in-patient, and the hotel costs for the week you are out-patient but have to stay close to the hospital. Those costs were in the thousands, and probably more than the out-of-pocket I paid to the hospital. Overall the surgery was very expensive (esp. compared to my orchi, which was out-patient).

How long did it take to heal after surgery until you could use it?

Depends on what you mean by this. I was technically approved for penetrative sex around the 6 month mark. But I was using a dilator from around 1 week post-op (they taught me how to dilate after pulling the gauze out of the canal at the end of my 1 week of strict bed rest in the hospital), and I was able to find dilation pleasurable almost from the beginning. I also had clitoral sensation and pleasure pretty much immediately (from 1 week post-op and on). I seem to remember orgasming from dilation in the first 3 months (I forget when exactly, it might have been in the first month), and I was actually a bit afraid of some of those early orgasms because I wasn't really "cleared" for it yet and I didn't want to injure myself or ruin the recovery.

Does it look good and function well?

This is hard to answer ... the quick answer is yes and yes.

On the one hand the feedback I get is that it looks good. It obviously functions well, I'm able to receive penetrative sex and it feels great. But I'm very particular and sensitive, and it's easy for me to find ways to feel insecure about my genitals anyway. Particularly because of my weight, the surgeon was not able to form distinct inner labia, and my outer labia remind me too much of my scrotum sometimes. But when not scrutinizing or putting myself into weird positions to make my labia look weird, in general just walking around it looks better than I could have imagined or hoped for.

All this said, I have to remember the standard I operate by is whether it improved dysphoria and improved sexual functioning, and those are both obviously demonstrated. I basically couldn't have sex without dissociating before surgery, and now I actually have moments of feeling sexy and able to connect with feeling sexually desired by others, etc. that I couldn't feel before. I still dissociate sometimes, but it is much less. I still have bottom dysphoria, but it is much less. The surgery is obviously clinically beneficial and worth it.

EDIT:

here are some pictures of results very similar to mine, from a patient of the same surgeon (warning, NSFW images):

nsfw

Have you needed to dilate a lot/kept the full depth?

Yes, until my 1 year post-op, I had to dilate at least once a day. The schedule was 3 times a day and eventually 2 times a day (around 6 months post-op), and eventually once a day (around the 9 month post-op mark?). After 1 year, it's dilating 3 times a week. Eventually it's just as-needed, so I'm probably going to test reducing frequency every 3 months and see how it goes until I'm dilating around once a month.

Dilation was challenging and painful for maybe the first 6 months and then became suddenly much easier as my wounds were no longer healing and thus tightening as much. I had wound separation complications, which made dilation more challenging.

I was shocked at how easy dilation was during the first few weeks or so - before you have had significant healing, and when you're dilating with a smaller dilator for shorter durations, it's not bad at all. It was only after significant healing was causing tightness that it became more painful for me (I don't remember exactly, but definitely by month 2 - 3, I was having more challenging dilation sessions).

Experiences vary significantly, but most people hate dilation. I wouldn't say I hate it, but dilating 3 times a day was very difficult in terms of having a life outside of dilation - working full time around that dilation schedule felt impossible at times. I don't know how most people do it, tbh and I often read of people dilating once in the morning, once after work when they get home (8 hours apart or more), and then once before bed - but then that defeats the point of more frequent dilations, which should be every 3 - 4 hours or so during that time.

Because of pain and tightness it also took me a long time to dilate in those first 6 months, a single dilation session could take me 60 - 90 minutes because it took so long for me to work up to the largest dilator and get it to full depth, I spent most of the time getting the dilator in (a minority of my dilation session was actually spent holding it in place at full-depth, which is for 15 minutes).

Now, it takes me like maybe 5 - 10 minutes to fit the largest (orange, 1.5" / 3.8 cm diameter soul source) dilator in to full-depth, and then it's 15 minutes holding it in at full-depth, so I often can fit a dilation in a 30 minute window. (And I don't have to take any meds for the pain; it can still feel uncomfortable at first, but after I get it all the way in, it usually feels good and there is no discomfort at that point).