The difference is not my point at all.

If my brother, at a very young age, had made the reasonable decision of pursuing higher education as a path in life, and due to a wide variety of circumstances is in financial trouble and I could help...

Guess what, I'm helping. I do not give a fuck if there's a difference, my guy. And I also know my brother would stop in the middle of a career defining work meeting and come rescue me if I was in trouble.

And I wouldn't trade that kind of relationship for your world view.