The first 6-12 months here (during/right after the Reddit API drama) were great. After that....not so much.
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Yeah I'm in the same boat. Though I will say, I have no personal experience of the stress and burden of running an instance myself. Especially one where the admins are actively trying to cultivate a non-toxic environment. That workload and the toxicity it exposes you to must be hell.
Personally I've had almost entirely positive experiences here, up to and including currently. But I stay out of politics, I've curated my subscriptions carefully and I never browse /all.