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[–] 43 points 6 months ago (6 children)

Having someone show their red flag this early warrants a "thank god" methinks. Also, "thank the flying spaghetti monster" is more like it.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Red flag? "This is going to sound bad but I need to cancel, sorry" is way more than you'll get dating, 90% of the time. IG they could've told them sooner, but I also don't know how serious things are. It looks like a perfectly adult response.

    Regardless, saying "Thank God" when you were just confirming a date with someone feels like a knee-jerk reaction to save face and insult the person you feel ditched you.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    The proper and respectful way to cancel a date would be to say - for example - "look, I've thought this through and I am not feeling it, I changed my mind about further dates, I appreciate the time you spent with me & I wish you all the best!"

    The red flag here is mentioning someone "promising" and not wanting to miss the opportunity. It says in the same words "you are not a promising character". The comparison is the hurtful thing you don't say out loud if you want to be respectful of someone's feelings.

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