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[–] 66 points 6 months ago (48 children)

So, are there two beds in that room?

I thought roommate just meant housemate, not sharing a literal room

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  • [–] 73 points 6 months ago (18 children)

    In dormitories they do put 2 kids in a room and the dormitories are separated by gender but it doesn't stop teens and young adults from bonking the noodles

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  • [–] 18 points 6 months ago (6 children)

    When I was an exchange student we had 3 guys in a tiny room. I paid for a hotel soon after

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  • [–] 10 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    The neighbors in our exchange dorm were 4 huge South American guys. The room was so tiny and crammed, the beds occupied 85% of the space (they also had a tiny living room with a kitchen). They still got it going on with so goddamn many girls from the dorm. I think each one of them had another girl every night. How did they do it, I don't know.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    What I did was give some money to the other guys for beer so they would leave for an hour or so

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (8 children)

    Does a professor want to be seen there though?

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  • [–] 31 points 6 months ago (7 children)

    Yeah, that's the hard to believe part here. A professor having sex with a student is believable. A professor having their photo taken while they're in bed with a student by that student's roommate and while they're in the university's dorm? That's a lot harder to believe.

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  • [–] 10 points 6 months ago (6 children)

    "Give me an A or I post it."

    "You wouldn't dare. It would ruin both of our reputations."

    *click

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  • [–] 21 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (4 children)

    It's not the posting of the image that's unusual. It's the professor getting themselves into a situation where the picture might be taken. Horniness can cloud the mind, but surely they'd still think of doing it in their office, or at a motel instead of a student's dorm room, especially if that student has a roommate.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    Yeah, but depending on the college, as long as the student isn't one of HIS students, it may be okay. Different colleges have different ethical standards, and while it's still a dumb thing to do, it may not violate any university policies as long as he's not actively teaching her.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Really? I can't think of any place where it would be allowed. Maybe a grad student with a prof from another faculty, but not an undergrad and any prof.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I mean, what exactly is wrong with it? Age gap aside, I really don't see anything wrong with say a young faculty member getting with an undergrad. Imagibe a prof in their late twenties and an undergrad in their early twenties. As long as the student isn't one of their current or likely future students, I see nothing morally wrong with it. Now if it's a 50 year old prof with a 19 year old student, that's a different matter. But the problem there is the age gap, not the prof/student status.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    Kids just out of high school may legally be adults, but they're not emotionally mature by any stretch. Their brains are still developing, and they're not making very wise choices.

    Professors are in a position of power over them. Even if it isn't their professor, it may be someone who is a friend of their professor, works with them on a project, or serves with them on some committee. If a professor pressures a student into doing something sexual, can the student turn that professor down without ever worrying that it might affect his/her grades or graduation? If there's a bad break-up, a professor could make all kinds of trouble for the student. A professor is in a position of relative power throughout the school, and a student is in a position of very little power. This is especially true if the professor has tenure and is very difficult to fire as a result.

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  • [–] 38 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    I thought roommate just meant housemate, not sharing a literal room

    Welcome to AmeriKKKa

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    College. Traditionally dorms for US colleges are just a shared bedroom/study space in a hallway of similar rooms. The bathroom is also a community bathroom with banks of shower stalls, toilets/urinals, and sinks for every resident in that wing on that floor. Then there is a shared common space for everyone in the building for gatherings, recreation, studying, etc.

    I never did a traditional dorm. I had a more apartment style arrangement on campus with two other roommates my first year in college. Unlike a traditional dorm, we had our own common area and bathroom for just the 3 of us, which was nice. But like a dorm, there was only one bedroom for all of us, with a twin size bunk bed and a twin size single bed. One of my roommates slept on a futon in the living room instead though, so it was really only me and another in the room. We were all friends from High School already too. So at least I didn't have to share that tight space with two random strangers. We had enough drama with one of my roommates as it was.

    I moved into real apartments the following years where I had my own room, even my own bathroom in one of them.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    I went to ERAU Daytona, which had basically every kind of living arrangement you can think of except the traditional "bedrooms around a hallway around a communal bathroom" deal you described. Note: I have seen dorms exactly like that, but ERAU didn't have them.

    The closest you'd get was Doolittle hall, which has clusters of four rooms that share one bathroom, several to a hallway. McKay hall looks for all the world like an old motel, the room doors open to the outside world, each room has two beds, two desks and a bathroom in the back. The Student Village had a couple halls where a pair of rooms had a kind of antechamber for closet space with a bathroom in between, Adam and Wood halls. It also had O'Connor hall, where I lived, which featured 4 bedroom, 2 bath apartments with living rooms/kitchenettes, housing 8 men total. Just off of that was Stimpson Hall, where upperclassmen still living on campus lived. Imagine a conjoined studio apartment, is the best way I can describe this; two men lived in two bedrooms sharing a small common area and kitchen. Apollo Hall had just been built and they were filling it up, I never saw the interior of that building.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (11 children)

    Generally speaking, -mate means you share that thing. So housemate, flatmate, workmate etc.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (5 children)

    In America it can mean either, though in college it usually refers to a dorm mate, which often house 2 people. It also describes people who share an apartment/house but have separate rooms.

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  • [+] -8 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    That's because the typical American is a semi literate troglodyte, anywhere else you would refer to someone like that as a flatmate or housemate.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    You must be British.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    In Britain, no one would think roommates slept in the same room. The possible words for that would be ones like spouse or sibling and anyone else sharing a bedroom outside of an army barracks or youth hostel would be super weird.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    What about coffee mate?

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  • [–] 20 points 6 months ago (8 children)

    One of those things that's normal only in the US and nowhere else.

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  • [–] 32 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    What are you talking about? It's not that common in the US outside of college dormitories or extremely poor communities. And it's pretty common in other countries for those same situations.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Most colleges in Germany have options where you aren't stuffed in a room with others unless you want to. It's generally a tiny bit cheaper to stuff yourself in there but even then I don't see the appeal unless you know your roommate.

    There's probably less student housing but German universities are also more spread out, meaning that students have fewer reasons to live by the main campus.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Most colleges in Germany have options where you aren’t stuffed in a room with others unless you want to. It’s generally a tiny bit cheaper to stuff yourself in

    This is literally the same situation as most American universities.

    I don’t see the appeal unless you know your roommate.

    Ya know how all the kids these days don't know how to socialize and are super lonely? This is their opportinity to very easily make friends when they are starting college

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago*

    This is literally the same situation as most American universities.

    Some (to be fair slightly older people) have told me that was not the case when they studied in the US and that German universities are more spread out.

    Ya know how all the kids these days don't know how to socialize and are super lonely? This is their opportinity to very easily make friends when they are starting college

    Isn't that what orientation week is meant to help with?

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