Let me preface this by saying, I am extremely fortunate to be working a fully remote job where I am able to manage my environment and generally be as I am without too much trouble from that.

It's, of course subject to changes and the whims of my 'leaders' but its pretty great for now, and has been for five years.

I have been to the office exactly twice. Once to pick up my equipment, and once for a two-day all staff social that took me a week to recover from.

My new boss wants to have quarterly in-office strategic cheerleading sessions. I cannot imagine many scenarios where I will feel my disability more, and do not want to go. Not just because of the discomfort, but because I understand the setback that will come from my team seeing me spaced out and weird. Because I know I will not be able to participate the way my new boss desires, and I need to figure out how to regain the standing that I am sure to lose from this 'day of connecting with others'