Materialism and QM have no conflict. What QM shows, via the KS theorem, is that reality cannot be objective; it must be contextual, arising from the participatory interactions between objects and subjects. Carroll 2021 is a fairly hard metaphysical barrier which prevents spurious anti-materialist claims by fully shifting the burden of proof to claimants; if you genuinely think that there are irreconcilable problems with materialism then you must give a physics experiment which violates the Standard Model.
The reviewers for Hofstadter don't understand the book, which I have on my shelf and highly recommend. The point of Strange Loop is that the caged-bird metaphor, that there is exactly one mind per one brain, is wrong in both directions: sometimes there's more than one mind in a brain, and sometimes a mind is not wholly contained in a single brain. The only reason to skip Strange Loop is if you're a computer scientist or mathematician, in which case you should definitely read GEB first and Strange Loop second.