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how are you referred to by others (e.g. "buddy", "friend", "ladies", "dear", etc.)? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 7 months ago by to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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I have a friend who lives on the West coast of the US who refers to me as "buddy" a lot, and I don't mention it, but it gives me the ick (she knew me pre-transition). I think she just uses it like a gender-neutral word for anyone (the way "dude" and "bro" ca be used sometimes), but I'm triggered, lol ๐Ÿ˜…

In public / with people who never knew me before transition, people will often refer to me and whoever I'm with (they're usually women) as "ladies" (ironically my sister-in-law hates how often she is called "ladies" when she's around me, lol).

On the phone or individually people often refer to me as "dear". In the South, I got a lot more "sweetie", "honey", and even "sweet girl" and "good girl".

What have your experiences been like (before, during, and after transition)?

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[โ€“] 2 points 7 months ago

Other commenter already noted workplace tendencies, I would like to expand on other parts of life:

Most institutions/corporations insist on you picking a title, though some offer neutral options.

For people you know, it'd be awkward to always adress them at full length, first name is usually enough. This is especially fun whenever you try to greet someone formally when you have just had a nice chat with them about the weekend.

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