But it’s adding it to a text file that eats up a ton of tokens and routinely gets ignored!

That MEMORY. md file won't do shit if the AI doesn't read it.

I give it 2 hours before it stops reading it until prompted again.

Apologies mean "I made a mistake and I learned from it so it won't repeat."

yeah enough humans don’t know that as well unfortunately. But yeah obviously LLMs don’t understand anything. That’s not how they work

Apologies mean “I made a mistake and I learned from it so it won’t repeat.”

I beg to differ. An apology means that you feel bad about harm inflicted upon others. To prove the point: You apologize when you’re late due to circumstances that are outside of your control. Or when you accidentally bump into someone on the bus when the driver slams the break.

They behave exactly a child does when a parent forces an apology.

They have the words they're expect to say so they do say them but they don't undersranr why, they definitely don't mean it and they lack the restrain to not doing whatever they apologized for over and over.

Like an abusive relationship

Apologies mean “I made a mistake and I learned from it so it won’t repeat.”

At best it might not make the same mistake again if that memory is in the current context. But more likely: It will not remember.

Although latest Gemini in particular has much more room for "remembering" things, still.

But "I made a mistake"? It is not self-aware in any way shape or form to the degree where "I made a mistake" carries any real meaning.

it is made to copy how humans write and speak

the AI had been scored for how good it learned from humans to sound sorry

If anything its context includes that it makes mistakes now and details about them. The mostly output is to create the same mistakes again