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OH GOD YES (piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone)
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[–] -3 points 8 months ago (5 children)

If your schedule is not actually fully booked you have the time, ADHD or not...you don't have the energy, which is something entirely different, but also valid.

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  • [–] 10 points 8 months ago (4 children)

    People don't always speak literally. So trying to be pedantic about the literal meaning of "time" when they were using it non-lierally doesn't make you more right.

    They conveyed "no" which was the actual important part of the message

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  • [–] -1 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    Saying you have no time when it's actually lack of energy is just poor communication skills, it's not about being literal.

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  • [–] 7 points 8 months ago

    If the message they’re communicating is “no” and not the exact details of why they’re saying no, “I don’t have time” is perfectly adequate. Everyone isn’t entitled to the exact details of why someone is refusing to do something. I’m not telling you if I’m refusing because I have severe diarrhea.

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 child)

    I would argue saying anything except "No" is poor communication skills.

    If you aren't willing to negotiate then don't give them anything to negotiate on.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    Social skills arent always about being as literal as possible, they can also be about navigating social situations with as little friction as needed to inform others and achieve your goals.

    Saying "no" to your boss and having them accept it would be ideal, but is generally unrealistic. Saying "I dont have time" or "im booked out" achieves the same goal that flat truth will not by making it look like you will negotiate when you wont.

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