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Okay, I feel like this needs to be addressed as well: this, like, public self-flagellation is not useful either. I have never once been ashamed of being a man.

The problem that men have here is cultural and systemic, it's expressed with statistics and social norms—it really, really has nothing to do with you or me specifically.

If you've already done the work of recognizing that negging women is extremely rude, then you've already improved as a person. There's no reason to be self-loathing about it.

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[+] natecox@programming.dev 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

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[–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 9 months ago

Oh, hold on, I am absolutely not against bullying these people mercilessly. I'm probably meaner to them than you are, if I were just guessing.

The thing that I don't want people to do is treat a cultural critique as if it were a personal one. A lot of the pushback that you'll see from the fragile male types is just manifested insecurity over the fact that they think they can't go up and talk to a woman without her splashing her drink in their face. The critique is just describing the currents of the ocean, but they will treat it as if it were a personal attack because what you're really arguing with is their hurt feelings.

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[–] IronBird@lemmy.world 15 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (7 children)

if it's any consolation, does make the bar for picking up woman incredibly low, makes it easier for the rest of us i think. just don't be a complete creep and your at top of the curve

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[–] deranger@sh.itjust.works 24 points 9 months ago (6 children)

I recently re-entered the dating pool for the first time in a decade and it’s incredible how much attention I get from just appearing clean, having my shit together, and not posting a picture with me holding a fish. Never got so much attention from women before in my life. Had a date in like one week.

The bar is very, very low. I am sorry, ladies out there.

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[+] sparkles@piefed.zip 14 points 9 months ago (1 child)

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[–] vacuumflower@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 9 months ago

and emotional intelligence

Thank you for telling me I'm unfit.

say “the bar is in hell.”

This reads like a joke or an exaggeration, but it's really there.

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[–] pipe01@programming.dev 9 points 9 months ago (3 children)

I must be doing something wrong then lol

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[–] zensanto@ttrpg.network -5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

appearing clean

It means he's attractive.

having my shit together

It means he has money.

If you lack both of these, it's going to be rough.

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[–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 9 months ago

I'm friends with several women: no it doesn't, and no it doesn't.

Having your shit together means your room doesn't have a pile of garbage building on the floor. It means you've hung up 1 piece of art to make your white walls more interesting. It means your carpet was washed within the last 3 months.

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[–] ParlimentOfDoom@piefed.zip 2 points 9 months ago

Yours is the exact attitude that causes women to flee. Bitterness is not attractive.

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[–] whereIsTamara@lemmy.org 18 points 9 months ago

You’d be surprised how many of these guys didn’t vote for Trump. Incels and woman haters exist across the spectrum. What we need is for social media to actually ban this content. But it makes them money.

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[+] vacuumflower@lemmy.sdf.org -18 points 9 months ago

This is honestly better than what I've encountered. At least they are trying to attract a woman.

There are types who can both hate a woman's personality and envy those she likes and hate her for not liking them, all at the same time.

But yes, being male, I've been recently inspired by reading about medical advancements in procreation without boys. This will be necessary to counter the population growth on the side of various shmucks and their abused wives.

(I've recently learned I have no right to call myself a shmuck since 13 years ago.)