▲ 255 ▼ ‘Manfluencers’ are filming themselves trying to pick up women using smart glasses (lite.cnn.com) submitted 9 months ago by Beep@lemmus.org to c/technology@lemmy.world 154 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[+] natecox@programming.dev 29 points 9 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 9 months ago (1 child) Okay, I feel like this needs to be addressed as well: this, like, public self-flagellation is not useful either. I have never once been ashamed of being a man. The problem that men have here is cultural and systemic, it's expressed with statistics and social norms—it really, really has nothing to do with you or me specifically. If you've already done the work of recognizing that negging women is extremely rude, then you've already improved as a person. There's no reason to be self-loathing about it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [+] natecox@programming.dev 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 9 months ago Oh, hold on, I am absolutely not against bullying these people mercilessly. I'm probably meaner to them than you are, if I were just guessing. The thing that I don't want people to do is treat a cultural critique as if it were a personal one. A lot of the pushback that you'll see from the fragile male types is just manifested insecurity over the fact that they think they can't go up and talk to a woman without her splashing her drink in their face. The critique is just describing the currents of the ocean, but they will treat it as if it were a personal attack because what you're really arguing with is their hurt feelings. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (-1 replies)
[–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 9 months ago (1 child) Okay, I feel like this needs to be addressed as well: this, like, public self-flagellation is not useful either. I have never once been ashamed of being a man. The problem that men have here is cultural and systemic, it's expressed with statistics and social norms—it really, really has nothing to do with you or me specifically. If you've already done the work of recognizing that negging women is extremely rude, then you've already improved as a person. There's no reason to be self-loathing about it. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [+] natecox@programming.dev 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 9 months ago Oh, hold on, I am absolutely not against bullying these people mercilessly. I'm probably meaner to them than you are, if I were just guessing. The thing that I don't want people to do is treat a cultural critique as if it were a personal one. A lot of the pushback that you'll see from the fragile male types is just manifested insecurity over the fact that they think they can't go up and talk to a woman without her splashing her drink in their face. The critique is just describing the currents of the ocean, but they will treat it as if it were a personal attack because what you're really arguing with is their hurt feelings. permalink fedilink source parent load more comments (-1 replies)
[+] natecox@programming.dev 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child) [deleted] permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 1 child comment replies: [–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 9 months ago Oh, hold on, I am absolutely not against bullying these people mercilessly. I'm probably meaner to them than you are, if I were just guessing. The thing that I don't want people to do is treat a cultural critique as if it were a personal one. A lot of the pushback that you'll see from the fragile male types is just manifested insecurity over the fact that they think they can't go up and talk to a woman without her splashing her drink in their face. The critique is just describing the currents of the ocean, but they will treat it as if it were a personal attack because what you're really arguing with is their hurt feelings. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] petrol_sniff_king@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 point 9 months ago Oh, hold on, I am absolutely not against bullying these people mercilessly. I'm probably meaner to them than you are, if I were just guessing. The thing that I don't want people to do is treat a cultural critique as if it were a personal one. A lot of the pushback that you'll see from the fragile male types is just manifested insecurity over the fact that they think they can't go up and talk to a woman without her splashing her drink in their face. The critique is just describing the currents of the ocean, but they will treat it as if it were a personal attack because what you're really arguing with is their hurt feelings. permalink fedilink source parent