It's not that I refuse, it's that I've tried many times and failed.

It's a comfort food my mom made when I was a kid, she called it simply beans and hamburger, but it was far from simple. By the time I thought to ask her how she made it, Alzheimer's had taken her memory. I tried scores of times over the years, and never got it right, so I finally gave up and made my own version that was purposely different so as not to remind me of my failure.