As a long term strategy, or individual choice, this kind of logic leads to bad outcomes regardless as the lesser evil doesn't move a finger to improve things, which means the greater evil will win eventually regardless.

Furthermore, both parties are utterly despicable with their foreign policy, constantly participating in coups, invasions, economic warfare, bombing, and more, all while pretending to be doing it for a GOOD reason.

I believe the obvious solution is to get organized collectively and make democratic choices on short term actions (such as supporting the lesser evil) while simultaneously doing real stuff to combat against both, through learning and educating, protecting civilians, practicing mutual aid, fighting landlords and corporations with unions, etc. As it stands, intellectuals platformed by the same elites constantly argue about voting the lesser evil and little else, as threatening the system would go against the interests of those who own the media platforming them. So I'm not saying don't vote blue in a swing state or whatever else, all I'm saying is that our political involvement can't start and end there, because people are dying.

This is exactly what the OP is about

I don't feel democrats are going to do anything for me. Yet I still feel heavy pressure to vote for then

The Democrat party is so incompetent. The election losses are their fault. Stop shaming people for not voting for a platform they hate, and shame the party for a terrible platform of inaction

You have enabled genocide, the ultimate evil, and you act surprised that you've opened Pandora's Box and now the Box is open.