With some specific exceptions, for me. If you are one, and you aren't using it against others, it's fine. Like storytelling and describing a conversation, or just even being playful about it. Maybe being at a store with some friends looking at clothes or something, describing yourself and how something looks perhaps? Totally fine in my book. That's our term, we should be able to reclaim it for ourselves.

But someone else who I don't know and can't immediately determine the meaning/context that uses it? Bitch you about to die.

It’s unfortunate - I like the concept of people talking about bundles of sticks, or slang for cigarettes. But the negative usage so dwarfs those cases that they’re really no longer legitimate

I do agree. That word is harsh to see, to hear. I have never liked it. Even between gays, I don't use it at all.