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Would you date someone who’s a 10/10 in looks and personality, but very dumb? (lemmy.world)
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[–] 48 points 10 months ago (3 children)

That’s certainly a naive thing to say, but intelligence presents itself in different ways. She may not know about geography or history, but maybe there are other topics she’s more informed about?

I’d also say how young she is should be considered. Someone in their early 20’s not aware Vietnam exists? Embarsssing for sure but certainly more understandable than someone in their 40’s. In my personal opinion, someone being open to learning and growth is way more important than where they’re starting.

TLDR; definitely a cause for concern but I wouldn’t say it’s a deal breaker in and of itself. Get to know her better before deciding if you can be with her.

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  • [–] 15 points 10 months ago

    Agreed.

    I would also be curious if she has any areas of interest where she is actually very quick and knowledgeable. If not, that might be cause for concern, but for all we know she just hates the humanities and is actually a wizard at higher mathematics. Especially since she's young, there's no real way to gauge whether it's a lack of general intelligence or just a symptom of complete and total disinterest in a particular subject.

    Also let's not forget that pretty people can often get away with more than average looking people can, so they don't have quite the same degree of pressure to perform in areas where they're uninterested. If a quick, dazzling smile can unlock the ability to copy someone else's homework or get the teacher to grant extra time on an assignment, well, school might be a little easier.

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