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Guys, have you ever been asked this question: "If your mother and your girlfriend are both drowning, who would you save first?" How would you answer this question? (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 10 months ago by to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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Context: So I just remember this after digging through memories.

So my mother was watching/reading some weird social media thing and there was this this question was asked to guys in China, and it's supposed to be a dilemma because if you say save your mother, your girlfriend will break up with you, if you say save your girlfriend, your mom's gonna disown you (cuz filial piety).

And so anyways, I think I was like 15 or something, and my mom asked me the question... I kinda froze because idk what to say... it was such a weird question. Then mom was like: "Of course you have to save me first, I raised you, remember? You only have one mother in this world." ... Something something... "People with blood relations to you comes first".

Now reflecting on that memory, that was so awkward...

Ever been asked this question?

How would you answer if your mom asked that?

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[–] 4 points 10 months ago

The real question here is whether anyone was in a situation where he needed to choose between saving a gf or mother.

Have you heard of bridge statements? I got to know about them when dealing with negative self talk. I was told not to jump right into the "I'm handsome" part just when I have a thought of being ugly, but to make it less radical, like "maybe I'm not the ugliest man in the city".

I think the question functions in a similar way. When you are prompted with this question by your mother, you basically are expected to answer "mother". Fast forward to when you move your well planned proposal to your gf in order to help your mother with her garden.

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