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Anon is eyemaxxing (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 11 months ago by to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 34 points 11 months ago (10 children)

Real answer: practice holding eye contact

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  • [–] 7 points 11 months ago (5 children)

    when i go on dates i'm shocked how many women can't hold eye contact, and yet on their profile they say how much they like men who can.

    it's almost as if people project their inabilities/insecurities onto their potential partners...

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago

    Too much eye contact can be threatening (predatory animals are really good at staring). There’s a fine line between eye contact with romantic/sexual overtones and aggressive/scary/creepy eye contact. If they’re avoiding your gaze then it might be the latter.

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (3 children)

    To them, you can hold eye contact, so it's working as they prefer.

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

    Exactly. They want someone with the force of character, however small, to maintain eye contact. It isn’t an inherently positive trait, it’s simply a trait.

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  • [–] 2 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    Right but the point being made is that some woman who want this, who say they want this... can't do it themselves, can't reciprocate it.

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  • [–] 3 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    On the other hand I've met several girls who said they find eye contact (while having a conversation, not just random eye meet cutes) creepy. Granted we were teenagers when having these discussions, wonder if they still feel the same way.

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