My age says I'm an adult but sometimes I think other people know more about being an adult than me.

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[–] 2 points 11 months ago (3 children)

According to me, for one. You seem to not understand your own privilege, or you'd be aware of the countless unwanted, unloved children born to parents who do not give a fuck that the world then exploits relentlessly until they manage to remove themselves from the abuse cycle or are dead. The foster system is full of them, and so are the prisons. Ever heard of the school to prison pipeline? It's a thing, and while many of those parents are simply disadvantaged but otherwise loving, many others are worse. Far worse, apparently, than you can acknowledge.

So according to me, a person with skin in this particular game, if a parent is unable or unwilling to see potential offspring as vulnerable little humans in need of protection, nurture, and provision until such time as they can manage on their own, they should not be parenting. And honestly, if a parent or would-be parent sees children as means to an end, things to use or worse, to sell, then "judging" them is quite frankly the least bad thing that should happen to them.

I'm glad you enjoy your life. But your kind of life is not the only life being lived. You are privileged beyond your own awareness.

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  • [–] 4 points 11 months ago (1 child)

    You said it better than me.

    Apparently Tubular has not seen the massive amount of horrible parents and by result, children.

    Not judging anyone, people can do what they want. But a lot of people do not step back to take in the gravity of the situation when discussing bringing new humans into this world.

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  • [–] 0 points 11 months ago

    Just like your own experience vs the experiences of others, there is an entire universe of difference between affirming tangible facts and claiming to have a solution. I stand by every word I actually wrote, and you should read them: I never claimed to have a solution to shitty people who choose to be parents despite their shittiness in parenting.

    You arrogantly and dishonestly tell me "Your argument is stupid and draconian" without ever seeing it's not an argument I ever made. It's some unknown vile mess that you wrongly inferred because of your own internal baggage.

    So when you can acknowledge the vast difference between stating established fact and claiming to solve the world's problems, then we'll talk. But in the meantime, you must not be nearly as happy and fulfilled as you claim to be with your own life, or you would not have needed to twist my words and those of others into strawmen that you then slaughter with openly displayed rage.

    I do have one solution to offer you: instead of attacking strangers who rightfully acknowledge the horrors of bad parenting that actually exist in the world, honestly looking in a mirror at why you are reacting to this subject the way that you do throughout this thread may indeed give you the answers you are clearly desperate to find. Peace out.

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