If we strip the externally-imposed milestones and accomplishment domarisons, we're left with basic stuff like the skills required to cope in a society with other individuals, make decisions and be responsible for those decisions, and manage (not achieve, but manage) basic needs.

It's bullshit, but that's close, right?

when I ask myself whether others - or me too - are achieving these intrinsic requirements, I'm not often impressed. But that's a target to work toward, anyway.